After 85 years of darkness, there’s a light at the end of the tunnel

After 85 years of darkness, there’s a light at the end of the tunnel

In 1890, the president of the mainstream LDS Church issued a manifesto counseling the members of the Mormon church in Utah to stop participating in polygamous marriages. I had several ancestors living in the principle of plural marriage at this time, but one of their stories in particular has always stood out to me. My great-great-great grandfather had three wives and lived in a small community on the Arizona Strip, near the border with Utah, called Moccasin. When the manifesto of 1890 was released, he feared that he would be unable to continue living with his wives and perpetuating the practice of plural marriage within the United States, so

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Courting

Courting

  We’ve had a lot of people ask us about courting. I know we’ve touched upon it in the past, but we decided to make it in a blog post all on its own. “You don’t date a married man…” Whether you live plural marriage or not, you want your husband to stay honorable to you, honorable to your marriage vows, or covenants, or whatever applies to your relationship. Marriage is a beautiful thing, and choosing to live your life with someone, and committing yourself to them, is a beautiful thing. You want to keep that relationship strong, and be faithful to what you have already established. The trust

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Memories of Faith, Sacrifice, and Heritage

Memories of Faith, Sacrifice, and Heritage

Near the community we live in, at the gateway to Zion National Park (arguably one of the most beautiful places on earth), there’s a few scant remains of what was once a small Mormon farming community. Some foundations, a graveyard, and one remaining home are all that is left as evidence of its pioneer history. Before the arrival of the Mormon pioneers, this canyon along the East Fork of the Virgin River was home to natives of the Paiute Tribe. Before them, it was home to Ancestral Puebloans who made homes in the cliffs and farmed along the river bottom. Evidence of their time still remains as well. It’s

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Life is too short to not be happy!

Life is too short to not be happy!

Watching the Tell All! That was intense! We all got together last night and watched the Seeking Sister Wife reunion episode (aka the Tell All) and we were not expecting that ending. We are saddened to hear about Vanessa leaving the Snowdens. We got to meet them in person after the tell all and thought they were a great family. We respect that Vanessa continued forward on her path and stayed true to herself and the journey she needed to follow. Life is too short to not be happy! The choice is yours! Many have thought that we only live this way because we feel we HAVE to. But

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Guest Blogger – April (Sophie’s Mom)

Guest Blogger – April (Sophie’s Mom)

Hello! I am April, Sophie Winder’s mother. The Winders have invited me to be a guest blogger today; in support of their intention to stand up for who they are!  I know they are making every effort to show their family values to the world.  I am so proud of them and the way their family is standing up for their beliefs.  They are willing to take on the world and make it a better, more tolerant place, for their children to grow up in… Hopefully!!!   I was subject to persecution from those who believe living this way is somehow morally wrong. I am a second-generation plural wife

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Sophie: “My reasoning to participate in Seeking Sisterwife”

Sophie: “My reasoning to participate in Seeking Sisterwife”

“…A highly sacred, sensitive, and secretive topic” Plural marriage has always been a part of my life, as a highly sacred, sensitive, and secretive topic. As I grew older and had a larger span of social circles, I realized how controversial the topic was. I came to realize there was a stereotypical illusion of what Polygamy/Plural Marriage was…and it did NOT reflect what I knew it to be. “You’re not a polygamist!” “You’re not a polygamist!” Was a response I knew all too well, as acquaintances found out my family structure and my belief system. “My mother was a second wife,” I would respond. “But, you don’t dress like ‘them’.” Them,

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Colton: Why I chose to be on a TV show

Colton: Why I chose to be on a TV show

  “Hello, this is a bit out of the blue. But my name is … and I am a producer for various shows in the television industry. I helped cast the first season of seeking seeking sister wife towards the end of casting. Now we do not know if there is a season 2 yet but if there was would you and your family be interested this time? If so I would love to talk possibilities. The show is about families journey into finding the perfect fit even if they don’t find the right one. Thank you for your time. Hope to hear from you.” That’s how it all

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Tami: “Why I chose to be on Seeking Sister Wife”

Tami: “Why I chose to be on Seeking Sister Wife”

Choosing to have a voice Out of everyone in the world, I’m the last person I would ever have guessed would do a TV show, let alone live in as controversial a lifestyle as plural marriage- yet I’m happily doing both of those things. Life has a way of throwing you curve balls and being on a TV show about plural marriage is full proof of that. I’ve always been quiet and shy. I can stand up for myself if I want to, but it seems there have always been other people in my life that have always done it for me. They usually do it quite well. Not

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Live and Let Live

Live and Let Live

  “My family has always taken a stance of “live and let live.”” I come from a very diverse family. Growing up with that diversity has helped me to have an open mind throughout my life. While I have ancestral lines that have chosen to live plural marriage, the practice of it in my life began with my grandmother. I am the only descendant in the third generation that has decided to live it. Most of my relatives in the second generation have decided not to live it as well. I’ve been somewhat the odd one out, since choosing to live in this controversial lifestyle. However, my family has

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Our Eternal Destiny

Our Eternal Destiny

“As man now is God once was, and as God now is, man may become…” In the first episode of the reality television series that our family is presented on, Tami made reference to a belief that we consider to be a core foundation of our faith. She stated that this life is a probationary period for us to learn to become like God, because that is our ultimate goal. It’s a comment that was met with varying responses; some incredulous, some outraged, some damning us to Hell as heretics and blasphemers. How dare we believe that our most gracious Eternal Father’s plan allows for us to become like

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